It was a miracle that we were even talking phone to phone. My friend Deborah and I are like most creative people these days – overcommitted. I heard the edge of anger in her voice when she told me that we never see each other anymore.
It was true. We hadn’t seen each other. It wasn’t for wanting. Deborah is a dynamic, fun, on the ball person with whom I shared a lot of fun and connection. It wasn’t her, it was my schedule.
I reassured her that I was still committed to our friendship. And then I got out my coaching toolkit and saved our friendship.
“Let’s plan a regular date,” I suggested. “That way the hassle of scheduling is gone and we’re sure to connect regularly.”
“That sounds great,” Deborah replied. I could hear the relief in her voice and I felt the narrow escape of losing a good friend.
How did we manage to not just save but solidify our friendship?